Points2Ponder

  "The soon to be Mr. and Mrs. Wood!"

                                     Points2Ponder

                                                                                                       By Alan P. Scaglone

 I just love a wedding.

Just something so hopeful about it.
You want to believe…they will live happily ever after.
You want to see… their future is bright and blessed.
You want to know… somebody still gets the “happily ever after!”
It’s just that…hope springs eternal—and the spring is always gushing at a wedding!
I am honored that I will be officiating at my godson’s wedding this next Saturday.
Shane and his sweet fiancé Jessica will be tying the knot—in the presence of God and all of these witnesses—
I’ve been practicing my script all weekend long.
You know—we just take for granted that the minister knows what to say—but seriously? I have to speak for 30 minutes and NOT flub a line?
I am not Tom Cruise of Daniel Day Lewis…
I am more like Vince Vaughn or Jim Carey—never quite sure what’s coming out of my mouth—but, this is one time—I want to do this right.
Why?
Because I really love this couple—they inspire me—they have beat the odds, found love after failures—and are great parents to 4 of the loveliest girls around!
And… they believe in me—I don’t want to do anything to disappoint them—
I love him like he were my own son —and I am thankful that his parents Sandy and Derrick share him with me and allow me to be his godfather.
Yeh—that’s kinda cool—for Shane and his brother Chris—I am their godfather!
They both really connect with me—we write poetry—check us out on www.rakbros.blogspot.com – and we love the Lord—some deep conversations on God.
And they ask my advice about life—about parenting—about trying to live the life so God will be pleased.
These boys see me for “me”—and I can be myself around them—and no one is suspect of anyone’s motives or actions or plans or intentions.
It just feels great to be loved for me being me—the “me” I am for everyone I know, but… not everyone I know recognizes or acknowledges the “me” I am wherever I am.
Wherever you meet me- I’m always ME!

Points2Ponder  Are we different people to different people? Or, do different people just see us differently?

It just made me reflect on other relationships in my life—some not so easy, not so rewarding, not so loving.
My favorite line comes from Richard Gere in the movie “Pretty Woman”—
He becomes exasperated because Vivienne wants “more”…
And he throws his hands in the air and declares “Impossible relationships—that’s my curse—Impossible relationships!”
I don’t think they are impossible, but… sometimes—the strain, the suspicion, the inference that something must be awry and there must be an ulterior motive—
Is just so tiring—when I know that I am the same person to everyone I care about—but some of them love that “me”… and then, there are the others.
I have to admit—I wonder why some see me as a “godfather” and others just aren’t sure how they see me?
It made me wonder…
Do you have some relationships that just seem easy?
They just seem mutually enjoyable and respectful.
And… do you have other relationships that are always in some state of flux?
Just when you think you’ve arrived at a place of contentment between all parties—someone trips on the lump in the carpet where you’ve buried the problem.
But… without clear dialog, sincere communication and mutual desire to resolve the issues—how can you “not” trip over that lump? It’s always gonna be there!
And it just saddens me because…I sincerely want the same things in all of my caring relationships—to share my life, my dreams, my experiences, my hopes—with all those I love.
It all comes down to perception-- something we are never aware of unless someone tells us.
and then we have to decide-- just how much work do we put into changing someone's perception of us--hoping that they will someday like us, or...approve of us!
I am 53 years old-- I honestly don't know if I have enough time to change their perception...
and...I am 53 years old-- I just don't know if I want to waste the last years of my life...
trying to, hoping, wishing to...when, in the end--it's their perception that needs to change.
At the end of the day-- I look into that mirror, and i like and respect the guy looking back.
Bottom line. I like me-- who I am is who I am to others-- loud, laughing, type A and passionate- ME!
Back to the wedding…
Shane let me know that he has asked the DJ to add Bella and me to the list being introduced at the reception—
He wants the world to meet his “godfather!”

I’m Just… Reflecting on -- Life!

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